To live Tantra is to say “yes!” to life. The good, the bad, the light, the dark. The spiritual, the mundane. The holy, the profane. It is all here. It’s all real. (SOBER = Son of a bitch, everything’s real!) Once we begin to accept what is, rather than fight it, we discover it’s so much easier that way!
When I was deep in my addiction I knew full well I wasn’t saying “yes” to life. At least, my true self knew it. But my addiction always had a ration-of-lies to hand out; “Hey, you’re saying “yes” to drinking, and that’s what you want to do, so in a way that’s Tantric!”
No. No, addiction, it’s not. Let’s look at what we are truly saying “yes” to when we are drinking and using, shall we?
Loss of self-confidence
Hiding in your house because you’re too hungover to do anything
Disconnect from Spirit
A half-assed career
Low energy and vitality
Crappy not-fully present sex
And of course we could go on and on. Addiction is a lying bastard, isn’t it? The only thing we are saying “yes” to in addiction is the demands of the addiction!
How would it look if we were truly saying “yes” to life?
We would be fully present to what life had in store for us, even if it wasn’t enjoyable, knowing that everything is transitory. We would answer the call of our Higher Self, follow our passions, and actively work to make our dreams reality. We would say “yes” to this body we were given, love it and take care of it. We would understand that our emotions are part of the rich tapestry of being human, and ride them like waves. We would revel in the sensual pleasure available to us in every moment. And we would be available to what Spirit wants to birth through us.
When we get sober it’s miraculous how things fall into place (yes, sometimes it takes some time, and it certainly isn’t easy to deal with all that we’ve been running from at first.) But sober, I have been blown away by the the way I am guided and taken care of. The way the Universe has shouted “Yes! Yes! Yes!” right back to me.
The truth is, the Universe is always saying “yes!” Everything we think and speak is reflected back to us with a resounding “yes.” And it is our true nature to say “yes!” as well.
We were not born to live in misery. There is so much love available to us – but we must learn to find it inside. We must learn to say “yes” to the beautiful truth of who we really are. It’s so hard to see that truth in the grips of addiction. And it’s so obviously clear in sobriety.
Choose you. Choose that beauty. Choose your Shakti. Choose to say “yes.” Even if you have to walk through hell to get there. Say “yes” to that too.
There is great power in both our “yes” and “no.” Some might say it’s the only power we truly have.
I invite you to get out a paper and pen and get real with yourself:
What would it look if I was saying yes FULL ON to life?
And if I’m still drinking or using, what am I actually saying yes to?